my comments. Similarly, this gentle demeanor helps my clients feel as if they are in safeenvironment in which they can freely speak their mind. Dr. McKee also commented on myvoice and said that it will be helpful to me later on and will allow me to perturb the client whilestill maintaining a non-threatening position.In addition to using the L.U.V technique, having an attentive body language, and a softvoice, I believe I also did well with my use of paralinguistic utterances. To encourage my clientto continue telling her story, I made a
subtle “mmmmmm” noise
when she finished a thought orduring an important segment in her narrative. Furthermore, I occasionally used paralinguisticutterances as a
response and “skipped a turn” instead of
providing a direct feedback. This
practice of “skipping turns” has been hard for me to employee but I’m starting to
understand itsimportance and how to use it.Specifically, social conversation dictates a 50/50 relationship in which one person speaksand one person listens with the roles continuously switching. However, in counseling, this socialnorm is severely skewed in that the counselor listens more and speaks significantly less. Hencethe expression of
cause the counselor is skipping his or her turn in whichthey were supposed to speak. Instead of speaking, the counselor inserts a paralinguistic utteranceor some anticipatory body language to encourage the client to keep speaking.
Aside for “skipping turns”,
it is imperative for a counselor to know how to appropriatelyask questions to his or her client. I also thought I also did well in this area, and asked openquestions that would probe her to more thoughtfully reflect upon her situation. For example, myclient spoke about the importance of getting validation for her profession. Thus, I asked what itwould mean to her if her area of study had that validation. This question lead to her
Reflective essay -Counselling session
2101 WordsMay 2nd, 20149 Pages
In this reflective essay I will provide an analysis of the counselling session I conducted and recorded. This will include a summary of the session. I will also describe the micro and advanced counselling skills utalised, as well as a critical evaluation of their effectiveness. A discussion of my application of these skills, as well as areas of possible improvement will supported by reference to relevant literature.
Summary of the session.
Leesa is a 37-year-old woman who I have seen around four months previously. At the previous session Leesa spoke of her frustrations at work and of her hopes of securing a promotion.
Leesa’s presentation was one of lethargy consistent with someone who was suffering feelings of…show more content…
It also conveyed that I was empathetic towards her situation. Geldard and Geldard (2009) explain that minimal responses not only convey that the counselor is listening, they can also be used to convey a message, such as surprise, agreement or even to challenge what has been said. The meaning of these minimal responses is also influenced greatly upon the delivery of them. Tone of voice, facial expression, posture and eye movement all help to determine the way in which these messages are received.
An example of a minimal response I made that conveyed empathy would have been; when the client was describing her feelings of not being respected in her workplace and I responded by saying: “sounds horrible”. This short response did not interrupt the flow of conversation, and encouraged the client to continue. My tone of voice and facial expressions were also congruent with someone who empathized and was interested in what was being said.
Summarising, paraphrasing and reflection of feelings are all examples of counselling micro-skills that let the client know that the counselor is listening and understanding them correctly. Although it is important to try to respond accurately it is not essential as an incorrect response can encourage the client to re-think what they have said and then clarify it, possibly resulting